A few months ago a friend introduced me to the concept of renting, leasing and buying. She said she was in a lease with an option to buy. Meaning she was currently dating someone with the potential to be a steady girlfriend, but that she was leasing until she was sure she wanted to buy (commit to an exclusive relationship). At the same time she could rent, meaning she could date and sleep with other people, kind of like going on a test drive without commitments to lease or buy the car. Very unusual in the lesbian world…usually it’s you drive, you bought.
I thought leasing was a brilliant concept! I had been dating someone for a few months at the time and wasn’t sure I wanted to commit to an exclusive relationship yet. I had just come out of a short but intense relationship that ended in a bruising and painful breakup. I told myself that I wanted to be single for awhile and just date different people and really get to know someone before I made another serious commitment. Continue reading