by Kevyn
So I was going through my morning Tweets today, and I came across this from my friend Justin:
“Gay men are like tupperware, you can find all the bottoms, but you can’t find the tops”
Why is this so true? I think like with most of the society, we always assume that most gay guys are all bottoms. I mean, it’s funny sometimes, when I’m out in a heavily populated gay area, I like to play a game with myself. I like to call it “Top or Bottom?” and it’s pretty simple: whoever walks by you you either guess if he’s a top or bottom.
It’s pretty easy actually, there’s no real winner, but just like Justin says, I can point out all the bottoms but not the tops. Every now and then I run into various other groups and someone that I believe to be a top is actually a bottom! But I didn’t hear it from their own mouth, its always through the gay grapevine. However, sometimes its so blatantly obvious, like, “GIRL, THE WORD ‘TOP’ IS NOT EVEN IN YOUR VOCABULARY…” but I know I shouldn’t assume, I wouldn’t want someone to do that to me.
I always try not to think about a person’s ‘role’ in the bedroom, but sometimes when I’m bored (and when my phone is out of batteries) I just wonder what role someone would play if we were to ever… roll around in the hay. I never like to be labeled anything, but for me, it all depends on the person. Yes I come off as one more than the other, but it’s really no one’s business but my own as to what role I am when I want to get down to business.
Unless I go into porn, because then everyone would know my secret sexual knee-buckling eye-rolling move that would render a rhinoceros unconscious.
But it sucks we live in a society where we are automatically pigeon-holed into a role based off of our appearance. What do you guys think? Should someone have a certain role right off the bat? Or should it be explored?
To me, I like being surprised, like those snakes in a can of peanut brittle.
Emphasis on snake.
Snake being a man’s penis.
Original Twitter Quote: “Gay guys are a lot like Tupperware. In the sense that you can never find the right top for them.” – villalink (Posted on June 2, 2010)
Good note, Daisy! It is fascinating why gay men in the last decade have gone into this fixation of top/bottom roles. I came out in college early 90s and we were all pretty much assumed to be versatile. The top/bottom dichotomy feels like a cultural invention of the millennium.
Top and bottom are constructs that really need to get broken down. I don’t understand how all gay men are not just versatile. Who doesn’t want the option to fuck and also to be fucked? I lose interest if someone is strictly bottom or strictly top. I feel like identifying with either one only is a cop out, and an almost repressive way to act in the bedroom. It’s boring. Pillow princesses and macho fuckers need to go get some counseling, because they are missing out.
Top
Versatile Top
Versatile
Versatile Bottom
Bottom
Find yourself somewhere in that spectrum…
*likes* Wade’s response